The year of the chicken

Don’t get me wrong, New Year’s resolutions are fun. They give you something to keep track of or to do with a friend, but most tend to fade out by March (and then you’re stuck making that gym payment for the rest of the year). Like “no shave November” or Lent, it’s always good to challenge yourself to do something new or to try to go without something you think you love. I always give up shaving in November and I try to not eat a food or a food group during lent. It’s healthy and it’s fun. It breaks up the routine of life.   You don’t need the changing of the calendar to make these adjustments or set these […]


The hunt in life is better than the kill.   Two things tend to happen when you are chasing your life’s dreams.  1) You are so fixated on the goal that you forget to enjoy or learn from the journey. 2)  You hit the goal and think to yourself “now what”?   I grew up in a rural area of Texas and we always had a farm cat.  A cat that spent most, if not all, of its life outside.  My cat’s name was Poncho and he split his time living both inside and out-mostly because he was huge and did what he wanted. He could also open the door by himself, so there was no stopping this cat. Poncho was glorious! We called him Poncho, […]

A Boy in a Box

When I was a kid I would take a cardboard box, decorate it to look like a car, and then have my older brother and sister whip me around a tile or hardwood floor. When you’re 5 or 6 years old, you’re small enough to fit in a box, and once you get moving and your imagination kicks in, 2mph feels like 50mph.   When that box wasn’t a race car, it turned into a fort, a trap for stuffed animals or a table for a lunch of PB&J and chocolate milk or even a place to play Go Fish. The saddest day was at the end of summer break when it was time to retire the torn and banged […]

Falling in love again

When I was a kid, you couldn’t pull me off my bike. I would do everything on my bicycle!  I’d even take my PBJ outside with me, just to eat it while sitting on my bike. When I wasn’t riding my bike, I was saving money to keep it going. Buying patches and new tubes, collecting tires and rims that others would throw out and restoring them in case I needed to use them later. I had so many bike parts, I actually built a second bike. It was a little “Frankensteined” together; back tire was higher than the front, it had a banana seat, but it worked and could do pull some sick jumps. Then I learned to drive […]

Do you have a big but?

My 9 year old daughter Erin is the best swimmer in the family.   I would know this because I watch her swim every Saturday morning at 8am. I get up, get her ready and take her to swim. Where many parents use Saturday morning as a time to sleep in; I’m up and running before the sun comes up and typing away on my iPhone working on another chapter. Her class is where I do a lot of writing.   For an hour each week she works on her technique, honing her skills one lap at a time.  She’s fast, strong and focused.  Yet, there is one thing she just can’t seem to master…she can’t dive.   Erin is probably […]

Eye of the Tiger

I’ve been moving forward my entire life. I’ve kick boxed on and off, for the past 10 years. Nothing gets your heart pumping or relieves stress like beating the hell out of a heavy bag hanging from the ceiling and I try to do this around 3 times a week. Occasionally, depending on the trainer, they will throw pads on their hands and you get to do your best Rocky impression while following the instructions of what types of punches and combinations to throw. Of all the things involved in the workout, this part is probably my favorite. It’s the closest thing I do to actually sparring with someone and nobody hits you back. I have a pretty face and […]

Six Degrees of Life

So this week I came up with a new mission for myself. Connect with 52 new people in 52 weeks. I’ve never had a problem meeting new people. I’m aware that I am charismatic and, from what I’ve been told, engaging. I have a friendly face and that often results in some sort of connection or magnetism. We all have a “super power” and mine happens to be the ability to connect with people quickly. It’s important to be aware and embrace what you do well. My goal in this year long, and maybe longer, experiment is to connect with people I would traditionally never meet. I want to expand my life Rolodex and branch out to other categories of […]

Personalized copy of #Tryharder

Many people have asked if I would sign their book, but they live too far away or it’s just difficult to make it happen.  For a $50 donation to the Phoebe Fund, I will send a personalized copy of #Tryharder to you or whomever you like.  As you know, I don’t make a dollar off of the books I write, as every cent goes into a college/future fund for my niece (the daughter of my brother, who passed away a few years ago). Just click the button and I will personally process your request!   Who is this book for?

You know what’s grosser than gross? THIS BLOG!

  Things have a way of working themselves out.   In 1996, I was sitting in my apartment in San Angelo, TX playing Madden football with my roommate Matthew. I thought of this moment the other day when I was tinkering around with putting this story into a blog. I also realized that the last Madden football game I had played was probably 2004 and, if I were to pick up the latest game, I would be completely and totally lost. Yet, my 6 years old son would pick it up in a matter of minutes without ever playing a football game prior. I played a good bit of video games in college, just like everyone else, but I am […]


“He’s a nice guy”. “She’s cute”. “He has a good job”. “She has a good heart”. Almost always, all of these phrases are the kiss of death when it comes to dating. Eventually, after you get older and some dating standards change, these qualities move up in importance when looking for a mate; but initially these phrases will cause you to have many free Friday and Saturday nights. I know from experience! When I stopped always trying to be a “nice guy”- I became a “serial dater”. What flipped the switch? I developed ridges! What commercials do you remember most? The ones that are different. The ones that stand out. They are funny or provocative in some way. They connect […]