The NOW

The NOW.   Since February, I have been commuting from Houston to San Antonio and back. In order to spend the weekend with my family, I leave work early on Fridays and drive 3.5 hours to San Antonio, where my wife and kids are still living till school gets out for the year. I wake up at 4am on Mondays, get on the road by 5am, so I can make it to work by 8:30am. It’s 202 miles each way and the scenery is pretty boring. We are now into our 4th month of doing this and it’s certainly not the easiest thing we have ever had to do, but we make it work.  Other people have it tougher than […]

Shut up and Listen

Fun fact. I’m colorblind.   I also draw like a 4 year old kid and my fashion sense could be described as “challenged”. Although I don’t wear glasses, I have issues with putting together certain visuals. I’m great with the visualization of goals and purpose, but terrible at suggesting what color the bedroom needs to be painted. My wife will show me all sorts of colors in Home Depot’s paint department and all I can do is just nod and try to support whatever decision she will inevitably make with or without my input. She doesn’t really trust my judgement, and I think she just ask to be nice. I am however a great listener. So, as my wife makes […]

Revenge is a tricky thing.

I’ve had many opportunities in life to be vengeful. I’ve been broken up with, screwed over and wronged just as many times as the next guy. I’ve had a front row seat to moments where people have attempted to extinguish my flame, but I’ve never once seen anyone be successful at finishing the job. In the end, I will always come out stronger and wiser…because that’s what I do and I do it without stooping to their level.   You have to be careful on what you allow to be a driver in your life. Many of our actions (or reactions) can be rooted in revenge. It often serves as a powerful motivator and pushes you to achieve more, but […]

A Vision Quest

A vision quest can mean a couple of things. Back in the day, when Native American boys would go through puberty, they would go on a vision quest where they would starve themselves in order to see a vision into the future. They used these visions to chart their course into adulthood. It’s also an amazing 80s movie starring Matthew Modine as a high school wrestler, trying to cut weight to wrestle an unbeaten opponent, while hooking up with an older chick while Madonna songs play in the background. It’s one of my top 5 favorite sports movies of all time. The pre-match warm up scene, with the song “Lunatic Fringe” playing in the background, is amazing and inspiring. Watch […]

115 Days

If you have never had to look your children in the eyes and tell them that you “lost” your job, then you have never truly lived. You search for the right life lesson as you are explaining to them that life sometimes deals you a bad hand and you didn’t do anything wrong to deserve it. It’s hard to explain to kids that you are being punished for doing nothing wrong. For being so good that they paid you the most money and that’s why they eliminated your position. When the company you work for is more than 22 BILLION (Yes, with a “B”) in debt, they have to make difficult decisions. You have to explain that the people that […]

The Never Ending Story

Are you living a defining life? If you let it, your life story could be defined simply by the actions you take in certain pivotal moments.  You should not be defined by one moment, but your navigation of a series of opportunities that are strung together over the course of a lifetime.  Then again, your life definition should be greater than just the trajectory created by these moments. Let’s not sell ourselves short, our lives are bigger than a moment. We often talk about a defining moment and some action or reaction, good or bad, which flipped a switch and jetted us in a certain direction.  That direction can be mental and eventually physical. One action can be somewhat defining, […]

The year of the chicken

Don’t get me wrong, New Year’s resolutions are fun. They give you something to keep track of or to do with a friend, but most tend to fade out by March (and then you’re stuck making that gym payment for the rest of the year). Like “no shave November” or Lent, it’s always good to challenge yourself to do something new or to try to go without something you think you love. I always give up shaving in November and I try to not eat a food or a food group during lent. It’s healthy and it’s fun. It breaks up the routine of life.   You don’t need the changing of the calendar to make these adjustments or set these […]

SUPERBAD is Life!

The hunt in life is better than the kill.   Two things tend to happen when you are chasing your life’s dreams.  1) You are so fixated on the goal that you forget to enjoy or learn from the journey. 2)  You hit the goal and think to yourself “now what”?   I grew up in a rural area of Texas and we always had a farm cat.  A cat that spent most, if not all, of its life outside.  My cat’s name was Poncho and he split his time living both inside and out-mostly because he was huge and did what he wanted. He could also open the door by himself, so there was no stopping this cat. Poncho was glorious! We called him Poncho, […]

A Boy in a Box

When I was a kid I would take a cardboard box, decorate it to look like a car, and then have my older brother and sister whip me around a tile or hardwood floor. When you’re 5 or 6 years old, you’re small enough to fit in a box, and once you get moving and your imagination kicks in, 2mph feels like 50mph.   When that box wasn’t a race car, it turned into a fort, a trap for stuffed animals or a table for a lunch of PB&J and chocolate milk or even a place to play Go Fish. The saddest day was at the end of summer break when it was time to retire the torn and banged […]

Falling in love again

When I was a kid, you couldn’t pull me off my bike. I would do everything on my bicycle!  I’d even take my PBJ outside with me, just to eat it while sitting on my bike. When I wasn’t riding my bike, I was saving money to keep it going. Buying patches and new tubes, collecting tires and rims that others would throw out and restoring them in case I needed to use them later. I had so many bike parts, I actually built a second bike. It was a little “Frankensteined” together; back tire was higher than the front, it had a banana seat, but it worked and could do pull some sick jumps. Then I learned to drive […]